This is just something I came across on my computer today. I almost forgot all about it. But it's the best analysis of myself that I've seen as of yet. This basically describes me to a tee.
I think I got it from eHarmony.com They give free personality tests.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
You show self-control in most things you do; you are not an extremist. Others may see you as stable, mature and steadfast.
You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
You tend to be a good listener. Others may seek you out to share a thought or concern because of your empathic listening style.
Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
You may be less talkative than some others, but people will generally know how you are feeling by observing many nonverbal cues.
You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
You are somewhat reserved in meeting new people. As a result, you could benefit from more assertive people doing the appropriate introductions to new people.
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Listen sincerely.
Patiently draw out personal interests.
Start with a personal comment to "break the ice."
Limit use of gestures when speaking.
Find areas of common interest and involvement.
Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.
Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.
Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
Allow time to ask questions.
Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.
Provide personal support and assurance.
Ask "How" questions to draw out opinions.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
You are good at helping others people to reach their goals.
You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
You like to gather facts and think things over before offering a strong opinion.
You are excellent at listening to your partner.
You are generally very patient with people.
You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
You are a dependable and caring partner.
You tend to be rational and consistent.
You tend to look for practical, useful solutions, rather than risky or untested ones.
You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.
You are very supportive of other people.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
Scheduled activities with no haphazard or unplanned activity.
To feel safe and secure in social situations.
Frequent appreciation.
Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions.
No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
A predictable environment with few surprises that are not "planned."
Recognition for your loyalty.
Security for now, and in the future.
Opportunity for privacy and to be alone occasionally.
Activities that may involve friends.
Identification with your social group.
